It’s been a minute!

I know, I know it’s been a while since I posted, but sometimes I just feel like I don’t have any interesting content to share. The last time I published a post I shared how frustrated I was with my results. At the beginning of March I decided to reboot myself once again. Planning for success and managing what I ate. Shortly after the flu hit our house and workouts came to a shrieking halt and fortunately feeling crappy helped me not gain any weight during that time. After we all felt better and I got back to my workouts I didn’t skip a beat. Then I received the extra push I needed….

I was attending a function for the Boy Scout Troop my husband is Scoutmaster for. I was feeling GOOD that night. I wore a dress and heels, did up my hair and put on makeup. I was in love with the way I looked that night. I shared my picture and received lots of love – which was fortunate because at the event someone asked me if I was pregnant. I. Was. Devastated. I mustered up a smile and made a joke about it and kindly said no. Inside I was crushed. I had been working so hard. How come no one was seeing it?

So on April 1st I began Transform 20, well a modified schedule of it. To allow for me to continue taking classes at the gym until the end of the school year. I weighed myself on day one, along with my fat and BMI, then that’s it. I’m not letting the scale define me and I’m doing to do these daily workouts for the next seven weeks – NO MATTER WHAT. There are no excuses that are larger than my goal of feeling good. I’m not stopping until I love the body I’m in. Some days I’m playing the fake it til you make it game. Summer is coming and I’ll be damned if I’m going to be miserable.

Photo by Designecologist on Pexels.com

Below is my calendar for workouts, once the T20/Liift4 hybrid is released I’ll be adding that to roll me into June. I also hope to get back into posting more often because it feels good to share!

I’m Still Here!

I know I haven’t been posting. I had a million and one excuses as to why I haven’t posted. But the real talk reason is I’ve been stuck in my head so much that I haven’t really wanted to post anything. But now…I need to rant. (Also, just to put it out there – I’m not looking for any “miracle diets”. I just want to complain. I know what I need to do. My mind and probably my thyroid have other plans,)

I’ve been doing the second round of Beachbody’s Liift4 and I’m definitely getting stronger. I actually just finished today! My results aren’t what I dreamed them to be. I, like everyone else, expect immediate results and expect them to be dramatic. Obviously neither of those things happened. This time around I did take a before and after picture. I also took measurements and kept track of my weights. The freaking measurements didn’t change! WTF

I’m annoyed. I know my food is less than on point. But I also know it hasn’t been horrible. I’ve never been successful at restricting my diet. But I have been choosing my calories more thoughtfully. I hoped that my exercise and better food choices would have made a difference. Agh!

So my next move? Learn to stop judging myself. Seriously. Because I’ve been hypercritical of myself. When I don’t look in the mirror I’m happy with what I see. Happy with what my minds wye pictures. But as soon as I catch my reflection I’m brought back to all the negativity. How do you change that? How do you look in the mirror and appreciate what you see? I hate having all these insecurities. I hide them as best as I can but the mean girl in my head is LOUD!

I wish I had the ability to have a trainer, to kick my ass and push the extra discipline I need. It’s just not in the cards for me right now. So I need to keep trying my best at home and with one class a week at the gym.

Here goes nothing. On to another program this week. I haven’t decided which one….. I need to do some quick research so I can start in the morning.

Here are my before and after photos before I go. I figure I took them, so I might as well share them.

Pray for a miracle this time around for your girl! Haha

Week One Reset

Last week Wednesday I decided to hit the reset button. I’ve been out of the meeting room since the end of April (Weight Watchers). Weight Watchers just didn’t seem to be “working” for me. So I stepped away. I tried for the month of May to just listen to what my body needs and pretty much maintained my weight throughout the month.

Then June came and my shorts still felt tight and I just bought myself a bikini (yup I sure did). I felt uncomfortable in my skin so I decided to once again switch it up. I logged back into My Fitness Pal and set some goals (after doing some research on what they should be). My goals were – 1500 calories daily, 500 “active” calories burned daily, 30 minutes of exercise daily and track EVERYTHING.

Beginning Stats

SO! I did it. I followed through on my commitment to myself and followed the whole goal this week. I overate one day but tracked it all and moved on.

This past week I lost 2.4 pounds and some inches. I’m happy with myself and reset the goal for the same thing this week. Tracking it all. I plan to wear that bikini beginning June 24th no matter what (but feeling better about it would be a plus!)

Week One

Below is my calorie log for the week. You’ll notice I started at a 1200 calorie goal and after some research realized it was a little low so I raised it to 1500 and that seems much better.

Here’s a sampling of my foods for the week too!

I’m looking forward to sharing next week with you too! Check out my Pinterest for some of the dinner recipes hitting the table at my house. You can find the link here… Pinterest

Be Optimistic and Realistic

disney-inspirational-life-quotes-Favim.com-956876“Don’t Worry, Be Happy”.  It’s a catchy tune, sure, but it’s not the best approach to success!  Overly optimistic thinking goes like this ” I went WAY over my calorie budget today, but I’ll get back on track tomorrow, somehow”.  While it’s helpful to assert good intentions (rather than beating yourself up) being vague about how you’ll recover isn’t helpful.  Thinking things will get better somehow, without having a plan to make it happen, can derail your weight loss efforts because we need to identify what needs to change and than set specific steps to change it.  So for instance the fix for going over your daily calorie budget could be to plan out your day for tomorrow. While most unhelpful thinking styles are negative (example beating yourself up) the don’t worry be happy style feels helpful and positive.  But it too can lead to feelings and actions or more often, inactions that undermine our journey.  Because it masquerades as something positive, this thinking style might demand a little practice and shift.

An example on how to manage this type of thinking was provided by the Weight Watchers Weekly on this subject.  It teaches you a way to “balance your thinking”.

  1. Identify your “don’t worry be happy” thought. (Example: I ate way more than I planned at my lunch date today. I’ll get back on track later.)
  2. Reality check it.  Ask yourself “what needs to happen to make this true?”  Use your answer to shift to a helpful thought that has one ot more back on track solutions. (example: If I make a plan, I will be able to get back on track later.  I could track what I ate.)
  3. Plan what you’ll do.  Choose one action from your ideas above that’s doable.  Make a specific plan for what you’ll do, when you’ll do it and who you’ll do it with (if anyone). (example: I’ll track what I ate at lunch during my 3pm break at my desk by myself.  That’ll help me see how many calories I’ve used and decide what to eat for dinner)

I’m a good one for this kind of thinking.  I am a big “don’t worry, be happy” thinker when it comes to my weight loss journey.  That’s why it’s ben so SLOW!  I’m always saying to myself “it’s ok tomorrow will be better” – spoiler alert- tomorrow is never better.  The action plan above is great and something I am going to give a try!

Speak up for yourself

A simple, effective way to sidestep sabotage (well meaning or not).

“Another slice won’t hurt, you don’t need to lose weight, but you’ve always looked like this-it’s who you are.”  Do any of these sound familiar?  If so, you’ve faced sabotage at some point along the way and it can undermine your weight loss journey.

Something to keep in mind, is that most often, sabotage is not intentional.  Often it’s the people that love you the most say or do things that could derail your weight loss and maintenance efforts.  These people don’t even realize they’re doing it.  They think they are helping you.  Many people associate food with love.

The bottom line is not to assume that friends and family are trying to harm your weight loss journey.  Take the time to explain to them how you feel sabotaged and let them know how they can better support you and your goals.  after all, they won’t be able to change their behaviors unless they know how their actions are making you feel.

An exercise from the Weight Watcher’s Weekly on this topic gives you a way to “sidestep sabotage”.

  • Describe:  Identify the sabotaging words or action with as much detail as possible.
  • Effect: Tell the person how that action makes you feel.
  • Specify: Give clear directions on what they can do (or can stop doing) to help you.
  • Consequences: Tell them how that alternate action would make you feel.
    • Give Feedback:  If the person has responded as you asked – thank them!  But don’t be discouraged if you need to follow up because they haven’t changed their ways.  It can take a second reminder to spur them to change.
    • Follow up:  The next time it feels like someone is sabotaging your weight loss efforts, tell them what they could do differently, using the DESC method above.

My mother is the biggest offender when it comes to this very subject.  She shows love with food, for as long as I can remember.  She shows it in other ways too, but LOVES to give treats and make desserts.   We’ve talked about it, but with her, I have to know that she comes from the right place.  She’s not trying to make me gain weight or go off plan.  She believes in me and wants me to be successful – actually.  But she also thinks that I have self restraint – which I don’t.

What are some of the ways you deal with this kind of sabotage?