In the beginning of July this was the meeting room topic. How to assert yourself. “Assertion is expressing yourself in an honest, straightforward way that helps you get what you need. It shows you respect yourself and others” Sounds like an easy thing to do, but many of us struggle with it. Will we come off as aggressive, too assertive, will it make people shy away from us? These are all of the thoughts that plague us during our journey. It can be considered another form of putting others needs before our own. If you are worrying how others may take your assertiveness, you may not be getting what YOU need! Asseriveness is a skill, so it can be learned. Once you’ve mastered being assertive in an effective way, you’ll stop worrying about coming on too strong or just not making the request at all.
“being able to respectfully but firmly express feelings and ask for support helps you manage tricky situations that affect your ability to stay on plan. For instance, have you been urged to take seconds at dinner, faced skepticism about your need to go to the gym? Learning to advocate for yourself and not put others needs and feelings first can help you feel more in control of your plan and better poised to reach your goals.”
In the Weight Watchers Weekly for this topic if gives a model that follows D E S C –
Describe (the behavior you want changed)
Effect (explain the effect it is having on you)
Specify (what you want or need to change)
Consequences (clearly state the consequences for you)
Remembering that putting yourself first and asking for what you need or want is not a bad thing and doesn’t make you a bad person. In my opinion it becomes a reminder to those around you that you respect yourself and they should respect you too. I’ve heard so many times in my life that “if you can’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others” and I believe in it. Following a weight management plan such as Weight Watchers or any other is a time commitment to yourself, dont sell yourself short. Invest the time and make the requests to keep the momentum of success going!
Source – Weight Watchers Weekly – July 2-8 2017